In My Father's House
June 2026
In My Father’s House
June always makes me think of my father and what it means to have had such a wonderful father. June is often the time that we celebrate Shavuot, when we received the Ten Commandments. We are reminded of the importance of having guidelines in order to live the most fulfilled life possible. It is a basic human need to crave structure, order and security. Thankfully, my father, a very devout Catholic, provided protection and instruction for his children. Our world has become chaotic and sometimes frightening. I long for the safety that I felt in my father’s house.
How could you feel safe again?
I’ve noticed that a shift back to basic values and time-tested wisdom is an antidote to our confused, media-driven society. We have so many distractions and demands that it is difficult to identify your values and experience a sense of purpose. We need to take active steps to protect our lifestyle and stay true to our values. We need a compass to guide us away from phony Facebook facades and back to authentic people that we can trust.
How many of the people in your life do you actually trust?
As a business coach, I’ve discovered that it’s actually easy for a business to stand out and gain popularity. Customers are hungry for consistency, sensibility and order. Customers are dying for assistance, recognition, and appreciation after spending hours talking to robots on 800 numbers or negotiating over websites.
How can you provide a more caring experience for your customers?
If your life has become overwhelming, confusing, or toxic, I would suggest the book, “Who’s in Your Room?” by my mentor Dr. Ivan Misner, founder of Business Network International (BNI). It’s a blueprint for having better relationships in both your personal and business life. “Your Room?” represents the people in your life. Happiness and success stem from having the right people in your room. The right people are people that share your values, are supportive, and have your better interests in mind. The ‘Who’s in Your Room’ system teaches you how to keep those people close to you and distance yourself from selfish, negative or harmful people.
Who do you need to get out of your “room”?
As a child, my father was protective and managed “my room” for me. Now that we are adults we must protect ourselves. As a coach, I want to help as many people as possible to have the best life possible. That is why I’m giving a webinar on June 9th at 6:00 pm to teach how to manage “Who’s in Your Room?” This will be a safe place to get in touch with your values and learn how to see if other people resonate with your values. You’ll decide what and who to say ‘yes’ to and how to say “no” without sounding like a jerk. “Who’s in Your Room?” and Ivan Misner have shown me how to feel confident when it is time for a difficult conversation. Draw people into your room that inspire you and I’ll show you what to do with people who drag you down. Go to coachmary.net and sign up.
Imagine feeling confident in those difficult situations.
What I’ve learned from Ivan Misner and from being a support director for BNI is that when you meet people it’s imperative to find out what their values are. Actions speak louder than words and you master reading between the lines. I’ll give you an example. I knew I respected Travis Sly, owner of Elite Paint Co. (417-772-9777) the minute I met him at a BNI meeting. He was very clear and coherent in explaining his business model to me. As a business coach, I could tell he was headed toward a bright future and was visionary, respectful and responsible. Without asking leading questions or prodding, Travis volunteered that providing stability for his family was his primary goal. He divulged that he recognizes his employees with praise and incentives and offers them a career path. He is fair and organized. Travis doesn’t take on a job and push all of his other customers to the side. Travis exhibits the values I want to see in a business.
Where will you look for people like Travis that you want in your” room”?
